Posted in Military Family, Military Marriages, tagged air force, air force wife, armed forces, army, army chaplain, army wife, Bible, chaplain, christian, deployment, Elisabeth K. Corcoran, god squad, how to save a marriage, Jesus, marine, marine corps, marine wife, military deployment, military families, military family, military homecoming, military marriage, military reunion, national guard, navy, navy wife, religion, religious, saving a marriage, soldier, spiritual, troubled marriage, veteran, veterans, warriors on July 19, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Found a great article on the struggles of marriage that will speak to every military couple. She does a great job of sharing practical tips and reinforces the fact that being a Christian does not exempt you from marital problems.
Hats off to Elisabeth K. Corcoran for the excellent advice. Enjoy the article.
Posted in Devotions, Military Family, Uncategorized, tagged armed forces, army, Bible, birth of America, celebrate religious freedom, chaplain, Christ, christian, Christian rights, christian worship, Christianity, constitutional right of worship, constitutional rights, current events, declaration of independence, democracy, faith, families, family, fourth of july, freedom, freedom to worship, friends, god, god squad, human-rights, independence, Jesus, love, mayflower, mayflower compact, military, military family, national guard, persecuted christians, persecuted church, persecution, pilgrims, Plymouth, Plymouth Colony, politics, religion, religious, religious freedom, religious liberty, religious rights, right to worship, rights of Christians, separation of church and state, soldier, spiritual, spirituality, squad on June 28, 2012|
Each Fourth of July we celebrate the birth of America. We celebrate freedom, independence, and the precious rights that guarantee the blessings of liberty. But it is important to remember how religious freedom was the original goal of living in our land. And by that, I mean prior to signing the Declaration of Independence.
Christianity operated in a very different environment from what we know today. Prior to the Pilgrims leaving England, there was no separation of church and state. There was one official church for people to attend and the King was the head of the church. During the 1600s, British law required citizens to attend worship services. Those who did not attend would be fined one shilling for each Sunday and holy day missed. People who conducted unofficial church services could be fined, jailed, or executed.
As persecution and arrests grew, the Pilgrims left England for Amsterdam. By 1617 the congregation was stable enough for another, more permanent move. They wanted an enduring place where opportunity and religious freedom could be secured for their families. They turned their eyes to the new America, braved a sixty-five day voyage across the Atlantic, and started Plymouth Colony.
Days after sighting land, The Mayflower Compact was established as a way to honor God, guarantee just and equal laws in the colony, and create a free form of government. The Pilgrims decided to establish a system where every member of the colony could enjoy guaranteed rights and freedoms under majority rule. Freedoms that they were unable to enjoy until that very moment when the ink was dry.
Their voyage and vision created the first written constitution on our continent. It became the seed of American freedom and democracy.
We often forget the past difficulties that Christians have faced trying to worship God. We also forget the difficulties in our present age. We have been so blessed with liberty in our nation, that we forget the inequalities that exist elsewhere. While we are not fined, jailed, or executed for practicing our faith in America many others suffer across the globe. We have brothers and sisters in Christ who live with the same fears, torment, and punishments of seventeenth century Pilgrims.
Recognize the incredible gift we have as Americans and utilize your religious freedom. Glorify our risen Savior in song. Strengthen your faith in a worship service. Read your Bible in public. But also take time to pray for the persecuted Church beyond our borders. Their current plight was ours not so long ago.
Posted in Devotions, Military Family, tagged air force, armed forces, army, Bible, book of Roman, chaplain, chick fil, chick-fil-a, chick-fil-a lemonade, Christ, christian, Christianity, Creator God, devotional, devotions, faith, families, family, food, friends, front, god, god squad, good lemonade, home, home front, Jesus, lemon, lemonade, lemonade recipe, lemons, love, marine, marine corps, military, military family, national guard, navy, religion, religious, reserve, restaurants, romans, Romans 1:25, soldier, spiritual, spirituality, squad, summer, summertime, summertime lemonade, the best lemonade, travel, vacation, veteran, veterans, warriors on May 29, 2012| Leave a Comment »
I love lemonade. There is nothing like a glass of lemonade during the summertime. It’s the best you could ask for. A cold glass of lemonade hits the spot after mowing the yard, walking the dog, or just relaxing on the porch. This amazing drink will immediately satisfy me, draw a thirst quenching “aaahhh” from my mouth, and deliver a toothy smile to my face.
Sure there are different kinds of lemonade out there. You can get lemonade in an Army mess hall or even a Navy galley. But I’m talking about the good stuff. The lemonade recipe that your grandmother used. You know what I’m talking about. A recipe with real lemons, sugar, and plenty of kick.
My wife and I recently went to a Chick-fil-A and ordered lemonade with our meal. We didn’t know what to expect of the drink. Would the lemonade be a watered down version or something that tastes too syrupy sweet? The sign said it was made-from-scratch daily, so we decided to take a chance on their lemonade. We were both amazed. It was absolutely fantastic! It had to be one of the finest lemonades out there. Where had this been all of my life? Why didn’t anyone tell me that Chick-fil-A lemonade tasted so good?
To say that I was surprised by their lemonade would be an understatement. I had been settling for something less, when this recipe was clearly better. This discovery became our new gold standard when it comes to lemonade. No longer will we settle for something less.
God understands good lemonade. He gave humanity a recipe to follow regarding life. He knew that this recipe would satisfy us, quench us, and make us smile. This recipe is the finest out there. In fact, it is the perfect recipe. It is the gold standard of recipes. But some folks wanted to make their own recipe. They wanted different ingredients and proportions in the mixture. They were willing to settle for a recipe with less because it was something that they had made.
Romans 1:25 shares that people exchange the truth about God for a lie or “the” lie depending on your translation. This passage tells how people “worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator . . .” This lie is about self. I know better. I am more important. I will do whatever I want. The rules don’t apply to me. In essence, I will follow my own recipe.
Folks have the choice to follow their own recipe in life. Perhaps they didn’t know just how satisfying God’s recipe is for us. But when you taste and discover how incredibly satisfying it is, you won’t settle for less. May God bless you and your pursuit of His righteousness, His recipe for your life.
Posted in Devotions, tagged air force, armed forces, army, artillery fire, audie murphy, battle of holtzwihr, Bible, book of Isaiah, Book of John, chaplain, Christ, christian, Christianity, devotion, devotional, devotions, faith, France, friends, god, god squad, Holtzwihr, isaiah, isaiah 53, Jesus, Jesus Christ, John, John 3:16, love, marine corps, medal of honor, memorial day, memorial day devotion, military, national guard, navy, New Testament, Old Testament, religion, religious, sacrifice, soldier, Son of God, spiritual, spirituality, squad, veteran, veterans, warriors, world war ii on May 25, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Memorial Day allows us to remember the meaning of sacrifice. Veterans, soldiers, and veteran groups frequently celebrate Audie Murphy and his sacrificial efforts during World War II.
As a soldier, Murphy was credited with destroying six tanks, killing over 240 German soldiers, and capturing many others. He was awarded the Medal of Honor for his actions in the battle of Holtzwihr, France. In this campaign, Murphy’s unit was reduced to 19 out of 128. As they continued to take losses, Murphy ordered his men to fall back while he provided rifle fire to protect their escape. When he ran out of ammunition, he climbed on top of a burning M10 tank destroyer and used its .50 caliber machine gun to fight the enemy. He also called in artillery fire to slow the German advance. Murphy continued to shoot and call in artillery for an hour until he was wounded in the leg.
When asked after the war why he had seized the machine gun and taken on an entire company of German infantry, he replied simply, “They were killing my friends.” His selfless service and sacrifice is celebrated every year.
Each Memorial Day we celebrate the suffering and sacrifice of veterans. But to understand sacrifice we must look past the holiday weekend. To understand sacrifice we must look to God.
John 3:16 shares that “God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life.” A sacrifice was made for us. Christ was wounded for our wrongs. Isaiah 53 is titled the Suffering Servant. This chapter in the Old Testament shares how the Son of God would be “pierced for our transgressions” and suffer on our behalf. His actions would bear our iniquities and justify us before a Holy God.
As Christians, we understand that Jesus went to the cross for our sins. His substitution on the cross ultimately atoned for the sins of the world. He interceded to save us.
While stories of sacrifice, war wounds, medals, and heroism will take center stage this holiday weekend, remember that we understand sacrifice through the love and devotion of Jesus Christ. He is truly our Savior.
Posted in Devotions, Military Family, tagged 2 timothy 1, air force, air force mom, apostle paul, armed forces, army, army mom, Bible, Bible lesson, Book of Acts, chaplain, Christ, christian, Christianity, deployment, deployments, devotional, devotions, Eunice, faith, families, family, friends, front, god, home, Jesus, Jesus Christ, love, marine mom, military, military families, military family, military mom, missionary journey, mom's day, mother day, mother's day, mother's day devotion, mother's day devotional, national guard, navy, navy mom, New Testament, Paul, religion, religious, reserve, single parent, soldier, spiritual, spirituality, squad, theology, Timothy, Timothy's mom, veteran, veterans, warriors, woman of faith, women of faith on May 10, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Moms play a critical role in every family. They raise us, nurture us, love us, demonstrate the right way to live, and make gigantic sacrifices for us. We owe them an incredible debt. Now consider the additional responsibilities of being a military mom.
Military moms act as a single parent during deployments. Their work load doubles when duty calls a Soldier, Sailor, Airman, or Marine overseas. They endure hardship, long hours, little rest, and loneliness. They sacrifice time and comforts to make life better at home. A military mom keeps the family together while times are tough and a loved one is deployed.
The Bible shows us a great example of motherly love and action in Acts 16:1-2. “Paul came to Derbe and to Lystra. A disciple was there, named Timothy, the son of a Jewish woman who was a believer; but his father was a Greek. He was well spoken of by the brethern at Lystra and Iconium.”
Timothy was a remarkable and talented young man. He was highly recommended by the local church leaders. His mom, Eunice, had done such a good job raising and teaching her son that Paul wanted to take him on his missionary journey. Think about this accomplishment. Her work at home made this young man ready to enter the ministry of the early church and reach the world for Jesus Christ.
She was a strong woman of faith as was her mother (2 Timothy 1:5). But Eunice was unique in that she was able to pass this faith along to her son. This was no small feat since Timothy’s father was not a believer. It also required extra work since it was usually the father’s job to teach the sons and the mother’s job to teach the daughters. Perhaps there were times when she felt too exhausted from all the work of the day to spend time with her son. But she would not give up in her responsibilities. She was faithful and willing to do the extra work. Praise God that Eunice made time to teach her son Timothy!
Be mindful of Eunice and her tremendous example from scripture. Think about her loving sacrifice of time and how it changed her family and ultimately the world. Consider how moms have made time for us and how we should respond with our own families. May God give you the faith, the vision, and the strength of Eunice as we celebrate mothers across America.
Posted in Devotions, Military Family, tagged air force, armed forces, army, chaplain, christian, Christianity, current events, devotional, devotions, god, military, national day of prayer, politics, prayer, prayer events, president harry s truman, religion, religious, spiritual, spirituality, veterans on May 2, 2012| Leave a Comment »
May 3, 2012 is the National Day of Prayer. Events will be held across the county where people are encouraged to pray for our nation, our elected leaders, the military, and each other. The National Day of Prayer is an annual observance held on the first Thursday of May, inviting people of all faiths to pray. It was created in 1952 by a joint resolution of the United States Congress, and signed into law by President Harry S. Truman.
While the day may be used to focus on government functions and civic purposes, feel free to make space for personal issues. Allow a time for repentance. Make time to renew your relationship with the Lord. Share the inner concerns of your heart and take them to the Throne of our Creator.
It is easy to get wrapped up in the events of work, school, and family, but share some of tomorrow’s valuable time with our Heavenly Father.
Posted in Military Family, tagged armed forces, army, Book of John, chaplain, Christ, christian, Christianity, deployment, Easter, empty tomb, faith, families, family, friends, front, god, heaven, heavenly home, home, hope, Jesus, Jesus Christ, jesus rose on the third day, jesus the son of god, John 11:25, life beyond the grave, linen wrappings, military, military funeral, military funerals, military loss, mourning, national guard, promise of tomorrow, religion, religious, Resurrection, Resurrection Sunday, service, service members, soldier, spiritual, spirituality, squad, veteran, veterans, warriors, words of jesus on March 31, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Military funerals are difficult. The age of the veteran doesn’t really matter. Each time family members gather to mourn the loss of a loved one there is incredible sorrow. Battle buddies, friends, and military leaders show up to share stories and give comfort. At the conclusion, rifles fire, taps play, Soldiers salute, and a family member receives a flag to remember the sacrifice and devotion of the departed veteran. These military customs and ceremonies honor the life and service of people in the armed forces, but they can also remind us of a difficult loss.
For many who attend a military funeral, death seems cruel, harsh, and final. That is how the disciples felt when they saw Jesus hanging on the cross. They were devastated. Death crushed them. There was nothing left for them. The last three years of following Jesus seemed to be for nothing. They huddled together in darkness, but then came the morning.
An empty tomb was discovered. The rock had been rolled away. Even the death shroud and linen wrappings were laying perfectly in place. Something miraculous had happened – Jesus was no longer there. He had risen from the grave!
In John 11:25 Jesus shares, “I am the resurrection and the life; he who believes in Me will live even if he dies.”
Jesus not only is life, but conveys life to the believer so that death will never triumph over him or her. What once seemed final and devastating is now transformed into new life. Death is no longer the end. Death should instead be viewed as the gateway to our heavenly home. Since Jesus rose on the third day, we have the promise of life beyond the grave. The promise of eternal life through Jesus, the Son of God.
If you are hurting and suffering from a recent loss, allow the words of Jesus to strengthen and comfort you. A cemetery is where we remember lives lost, but it is not our final home. For those who have put their faith in Christ, Easter means that we will live in the presence of God forever.
Posted in Military Family, Military Marriages, tagged air force wife, air force wives, armed forces, army, army wife, army wives, Bible, chaplain, Christ, christian, faith, families, family, five love languages, friends, front, god, home, Jesus, love, marine wife, marine wives, marriage, marriage counseling, military, military chaplain, military marriage, military wedding, national guard, navy wife, navy wives, pre-marital, pre-marital counseling, religion, religious, reserve, spiritual, spirituality, squad, strong marriage, veteran, veterans, warriors on March 25, 2012| Leave a Comment »
As a pastor and a military chaplain I am asked to perform a flurry of weddings each year. It is absolutely wonderful when a couple wants to tie the knot. I want them to have a strong and beneficial marriage. That is why I require a minimum of four marriage counseling sessions before the big day.
Some couples fall into the trap of spending more time planning the wedding than their married life together. A wedding ceremony can last 20-45 minutes, but the marriage is intended to last for the rest of their lives. In an age when 50% of marriages end in divorce, couples need to build a solid foundation for their marriage to succeed. Making time to strengthen your relationship before you tie the knot, will help it stay tied.
Pre-marital counseling has some distinct benefits for couples. Here are a few reasons you should get marriage counseling before the wedding bells chime:
1. Strengthen communication skills
You can learn how to listen to your spouse and speak effectively with each other. This does not happen by accident. It will take time, effort, and practice. While better communication skills may seem like a catch phrase, couples who learn the skills can resolve issues more quickly and avoid serious fights.
2. Discuss roles and expectations
What will married life look like after the ceremony? Don’t expect this to take care of itself down the road. Now is the best time to discuss expectations. Topics should cover a wide range of issues to give transparency and depth. Who will make the morning coffee? Will you have a joint checking account? Will you be a one or two income household? Does your spouse plan to go back to school? Where will you worship? Marriage counseling is a great place to start or continue the conversation.
3. Identify past relationship problems
We can learn from our past. Discussing past relationships can allow a couple to eliminate destructive behaviors. This time of discovery can show why a past relationship failed and help you build strategies on staying together. It is also important to discuss the role of your family. How and what did you learn about marriage from your parents? There are likely good and bad examples, but this is the time and place to share those lessons. No one is doomed to repeat past mistakes if we identify what went wrong and make a plan for success.
4. Learn how to fight fair
Couples get into arguments. That is a given fact of life. We live in an imperfect world with imperfect people. Verbal fights, arguments, and conflict will happen. I can’t prevent you from fighting, but you can learn to fight fair with each other. Take the time to educate yourself on these skills. Learn what to avoid, how to cool down, and move toward solving the problem as a team.
5. Strengthen your faith
Ecclesiastes 4:12 shares, “a rope of three strands is not quickly broken.” There is incredible wisdom in having God as the third strand in your marriage. Allow His love to surround you, teach you, and draw you closer to your mate. Learn to follow God’s plan for yourself and your marriage. Live within the covenant of marriage. Make faith a priority in your marriage. Worship together and reach new highs through Christ.
6. Build a marriage map
Marriage is a life long commitment. So it is important to discuss where you are going and where you want to be as husband and wife. What should your marriage look like? Marriage counseling allows you to discuss a plan for now and much later in life. Do you want to have children? How many children seem like the right fit for your family? Will someone stay home during that time? Will you continue to have a date night after the baby arrives? Make time to discuss your goals and plans. This is an exciting time to chart out a direction for your future together.
Books and Manuals
While no one likes to talk about homework, I encourage couples to read a book after our first session. It will be the topic of discussion for our second session. My personal favorite is Gary Chapman’s, The Five Love Languages. There are several different marriage workbooks and programs out there. Pastors and counselors may use another device, but take the time to strengthen your faith and your relationship before you say, “I do.”
What homework did you have for marriage counseling? Are there additional books that have helped your military marriage? What books would you recommend to a couple before they tie the knot? Feel free to list your books and suggestions in the comment section.
May God continue to bless you and your marriage.
Posted in Devotions, tagged additional skill identifier, additional skill identifiers, armed forces, army, army rank, asi, Bible, Book of Matthew, chaplain, christian, Christianity, devotional, devotions, faith, friends, front, god, home, humble, humility Jesus, Matthew, military, military occupational specialty, military rank, mos, national guard, pharisees, rank, religion, religious, soldier, spiritual, squad, veteran, veterans, warriors on March 20, 2012| Leave a Comment »
I am often amused at the alphabet soup people place behind their names. Most folks will visit a MD, CPA, CFP, and perhaps even an Esq. with a JD. Clergy are not immune from the soup spilling on them. Does your pastor have a MACE, M.Div., Th.M., D.Min. or Ph.D.?
Alphabet soup seems to be everywhere. It touches every profession and career. The growing level of certifications, licenses, and degrees seem to have no limit. It has gotten to the point that I cannot recognize what all the abbreviations stand for.
The Army has several different levels of its own alphabet soup: rank, military occupational specialty codes or MOS, and additional skill identifiers or ASI.
I believe that two factors are influencing the trend; greater levels of specialization and human pride.
People like the notoriety and uniqueness that the alphabet soup provides. It makes you stand out. It shows your determination and hard work. It makes you different from everyone else. Consider the pride folks have in hearing people shout, “doctor” or “pastor” before your name.
Jesus addressed this issue in Matthew 23:1-11.
1 Then Jesus said to the crowds and to his disciples: 2 “The teachers of the law and the Pharisees sit in Moses’ seat. 3 So you must be careful to do everything they tell you. But do not do what they do, for they do not practice what they preach. 4 They tie up heavy, cumbersome loads and put them on other people’s shoulders, but they themselves are not willing to lift a finger to move them.
5 “Everything they do is done for people to see: They make their phylacteries wide and the tassels on their garments long; 6 they love the place of honor at banquets and the most important seats in the synagogues; 7 they love to be greeted with respect in the marketplaces and to be called ‘Rabbi’ by others.
8 “But you are not to be called ‘Rabbi,’ for you have one Teacher, and you are all brothers. 9 And do not call anyone on earth ‘father,’ for you have one Father, and he is in heaven. 10 Nor are you to be called instructors, for you have one Instructor, the Messiah. 11 The greatest among you will be your servant. 12 For those who exalt themselves will be humbled, and those who humble themselves will be exalted.
Jesus encouraged his followers to live differently. Don’t do what they do. Don’t act like you are high and mighty. Don’t make a scene. Don’t draw attention merely for the glory of self. The disciples were even told to avoid the title of rabbi or teacher in their fellowship. They were to consider each other as brothers.
Jesus wants us to live and act in a humble manner. Don’t get caught up in the game of alphabet soup. While certain professions will require designations behind your name, be sure to honor God with a servant’s heart. The praise of man is cheap and fleeting. Instead, seek to be exalted by our Heavenly Father.
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Church Confidence Hits an All-Time Low
Posted in News & Commentary, tagged 2012 church confidence, 2012 confidence in religion, 2012 Gallup poll, 2012 Gallup survey, American confidence in organized religion, American confidence in the church, Bible, chaplain, Christ, christian, Christianity, church as a hospital for sinners, Church confidence, church split, confidence in institutions, confidence in the church at low, current events, faith, families, Gallup poll, Gallup survey, god, god squad, Great Physician, hospital for sinners, Jesus, Jesus Christ, looking for a church, looking for a church home, low church confidence, national guard, news, organized religion, poll, record low attitudes on religion, religion, religious, Son of God, spiritual, spiritual hospital, spirituality, survey, why do people leave the church, Why I hate religion and love Jesus, why I hate the church, why people leave the church on July 16, 2012| Leave a Comment »
Each year Gallup releases a “Confidence in Institutions” survey. This year it reveals that only 44% of Americans have a “great deal or quite a lot of confidence in ‘the church or organized religion.'”
Organized religion has ranked at the top of the list from 1973-1985, but now it is tied with the medical system. Bean counters will quickly point out that religion still ranks fourth out of sixteen institutions tested, but that can hardly be viewed as a prize. Bronze medal? Sorry church, you missed it by that much.
After I let the survey results simmer, my thoughts went to people who have been hurt, wounded, and injured by the church. When I hear stories of people searching for a different church home it is always for a reason. Too often families leave a congregation because of strife, bitterness, and conflict. They leave due to splits and infighting. They leave because of hurtful comments and negative attitudes. Unfortunately, the pain can be so intense that many won’t even bother to look for a new church home. Many stop looking or worse yet, stop going. When that is the legacy, why would people express confidence?
I like it when people describe the church as a hospital for sinners. It is the emergency room where we find comfort and peace through Jesus Christ. But this spiritual hospital will have people who are coughing, fever-ridden, and sick. There are varying levels of sickness due to sin. Cross-bearing is a requirement for ministry to occur in this setting. There will be unpleasant people in every congregation, but then again what emergency room doesn’t have someone in need of a physician?
If you are looking for a church home or stopped looking for a solid body of believers, remember that Jesus died for you and all who suffer from the pain of sin. He died for everybody. Congregations are made up of imperfect people who are in need of the Great Physician. Place your confidence in the Son of God and you will never be disappointed.
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